STRUGGLING WITH ANXIETY?
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The simplest way to recover from anxiety if you want the cure-all is really just to get out of your comfort zone over and over and over again, because when we get out of that comfort zone, it literally becomes impossible for us to stay anxious. Anxiety up to this point has been something that we have practiced over time and in order to break that anxious cycle we must learn how to work through the anxiety and practice that instead.
The problem is that with anxiety, just the littlest tiny things sometimes can trigger us to feel anxious. These little relatively insignificant things that would ordinarily have little or no impact on us can hit us a lot harder when we're feeling anxious. As a result, that process of getting out of that comfort zone is just much more complicated and much more challenging than it ordinarily would be. It feels like we are stuck between a rock and a hard place, the very things we must do in order to overcome our anxiety, are the very things making us feel anxious in the first place.
It's a bit like trying to do exercise or do something physical when you're severely sunburned. When you're severely sunburned, even the process of trying to go to sleep at night can be excruciatingly painful because every toss and turn, as you're rolling over in your sleep, you feel the sheets rubbing across your skin and it's painful. Whereas ordinarily, you wouldn't notice that at all.
Now, that red raw, sort of extra sensitivity and emotional pain could probably quite simply be healed purely for the power of connecting with people. If you've got good friendships, good relationships, if you've got people around you that you can feel a strong sense of connectedness to, well that alone would probably offer a fairly simple solution to help you overcome acute or chronic anxiety.
The problem is, again, that irony. There's that conundrum, the catch-22, which is that with anxiety, the process of feeling connected to people becomes inhibited. In other words, it's a lot more difficult to feel connected to people when you're anxious because often, we choose to avoid social situations.
There's a couple of reasons for that by the way. The first is that in order to feel a sense of connectedness to people, we need to feel a sense of understanding. We need to feel that they are understanding of us. The problem is that, iwhen anxious, most people around us simply don't really understand what's going on. They're too in their own little universe and it's very difficult to explain to them sometimes as well. When we do tell friends and family about our anxiety, they often dont understand, tell us that 'we are silly' and that we should simply get over it. If only it were so simple.
With long term chronic anxiety, quite often, you're feeling anxious because the thing that has triggered you off is probably something fairly small or seemingly small. It would certainly seem small to other people. Again, If you try to explain it, it just becomes much more complicated.
What you realized in your mind is that even though that thing may seem small, it's actually triggered off other thoughts or memories of things that have happened in the past. Or all these negative experiences through your life, although small, have also connected and joined the dots to create this much bigger picture in your mind.
Whilst the person sees just a little insignificant thing that they might think, "Why can't you just go over it?" What we see is something that eventually leads our mind to believe that life is terrible, it's all hopeless and there's nothing to look forward to.
Unless you've experienced that, it can be very challenging to understand what that's like. That makes it just more difficult to gain that sense of understanding from people around us. The second problem is that because unconsciously we'll always prefer to feel understood, then what happens with people especially that are experiencing long term chronic anxiety is ...
As the saying says, "Misery prefers company." We tend to find it more easy to gain that sense of connectedness from other people that area also quite anxious. Being surrounded by anxious people is not going to help us recover from anxiety. If anything, quite the opposite, it will help you stay in that dark space.
Again, that's part of that conundrum where you find it more easy to connect with people that are going to have a negative impact on you. Whereas the people that could potentially have a positive impact on you, will not make you feel a sense of connectedness or understanding. The end result is a deep down feeling of isolation, which is the exact opposite of what we need to feel in order to recover from anxiety. Again, the irony is that the more isolated we feel, the more anxious we get. The more anxious we get, the more isolated we feel and it becomes its vicious cycle. The more we practice anxiety, the more anxious we become and the more time we spend being anxious, the less time we are distracting ourselves and practicing not being anxious.
The other irony about acute anxiety is that the way that we would need to think in order to recover from depression is the exact opposite of the way that anxiety tries to get us to think. It's important to understand that acute anxiety is essentially a liar. It's like a sleazy salesman that plays on our hopes and our fears and our weaknesses and our vulnerabilities. It knows how to twist things and tell us things that will give us a short term sense of comfort sometimes but it will rob us our long term happiness. For example our anxiety may tell us to stay inside so that we are safe and protected. This is great in the short term because are safe and sound but, in the long term this is harmful to us. We loose connection with the world, our jobs, income, love, our ability to keep active and stay healthy.
For example, sometimes, it's simply easier to believe that everything is terrible or there's no hope for the future at all. Sometimes, at least, that gives us a sense of certainty. Whereas, if we were to get our hopes up, we would have to let our guard down. We'd have to accept that maybe not everything is terrible but not everything is good either.
That sets us up to be caught off guard and to be prone to being disappointed. Sometimes, it's just easier to believe that yes, everything is terrible and there's no hope for the future. All the other distorted version of reality, the depression often tries to pitch to us to get us to buy into.
In my e-book about anxiety, I outlined for you specifically what that particular argument is that the anxiety will use. It will use it in many, many different ways. You get 100 different people. You'll see 100 different versions of it, but it's the same recurring pattern time and time again.
Once you learn to identify that pattern, it gives you an empowered ability to sit back from it, realize when it's doing that phony sales pitch and give you the ability to understand how to then un-manipulate its manipulated version of reality and see things how they really are. That's what I've explained in this e-book and it's going to break it down for you in a way that's going to make it a lot easy to understand in fact, you will be able to overcome anxiety in four simple, effective and incredibly easy steps.
The other irony about anxiety however, is that taking care of ourselves when we're depressed or anxious is a lot more complicated. It's a lot more challenging and difficult than what it would ordinarily be. The irony is though that to recover from anxiety, we actually need to learn how to take better care of ourselves.
If you can think of the person that you love and care for most in the world right now, the person that is the most precious to you and imagine that person was now in the care of somebody else. You would want that somebody else, you would want that carer, to take very good care of your loved one.
In order to recover from anxiety, we need to learn how to essentially become that carer for ourselves, but also become that loved one and start to look after ourselves and think about it and communicate with ourselves in a way that provides us with strong emotional support. The irony though is that while we are anxious, it's a lot easier to not even realize sometimes that we're neglecting ourselves.
Here's the really important thing that I'd like you to take onboard though. If you were to speak to somebody who's in the middle of what they would call rock bottom or a midlife crisis or having a nervous breakdown or however they would describe at the time. They would say that it's one of the deepest, darkest, most difficult moments of their life.
The really, really interesting and fascinating thing is though, that when you follow them up and you speak to them a few years down the track, when they're reflecting back on those rock bottom moments, they'll speak of those moments in a very different tone. What they then come to realize is that they actually needed to have those rock bottom moments. They needed to go through that because sometimes we just keep spiraling and spiraling down and end up nowhere.
When we hit that moment that we would call rock bottom, they're the moments that jolt us into realizing that enough is enough. We're not willing to put up with that anymore and whatever it takes, we become willing to make the change. As a result of that, those pivotal moments, they make a different decision, they take a slightly different course of action and it doesn't necessarily fix everything straight away, but they just start to veer in a slightly different direction. As a result, that better direction is what sends them down the path to recovery and ends up almost being like riding a new chapter of life.
Everything I've spoken about here and everything I've written about in this e-book is not just theoretical information out of a textbook. These are all things that I can personally associate with. These are things that I have personally experienced. I've been through it. I know what it's like, but I also know the path to recovery as well.
It's not necessarily easy. It's not necessarily simple, but what I can guarantee you is that it is necessarily worth it. You are worth it. That's I think the most important fundamental belief that needs to change in a depressed person's mind. We need to accept that we are worth whatever it takes to heal those wounds and to fix our life, especially when we start to realize that anxiety is not always just affecting us. It is also affecting our loved ones and those we care about most.
One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling like you have to protect your loved ones from yourself. One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling guilty about not being able to be there or provide the emotional support for our loved ones around us just because we are so burdened with our own anxiety. That's one of the other motivating forces that brings people to this point as well. When they realized that they need to make changes not just for themselves, but for the people around them as well.
The purpose of this e-book is to give you some ideas but also to give you a starting point, because one of the other ironies of depression is that we often do a very circular kind of thinking where we just go around and around. "We know that there's a problem, but we don't necessarily know just where to start."
The idea of this e-book is to give you a place to start. I'm hoping that as you read through this FREE e-book, you'll pick up on a couple things in there where you'll be like, "Oh yeah, that makes perfect sense now. That explains that. That thing I've been doing ..." You figure out how it's personally relevant to you. Ideally, that will give you a point where you can come along to therapy and say, "That's where I'd like to get started now."
Just click on the link below. Download the full version if you prefer to read or download the audio book version if you prefer to listen. I hope you gained some really valuable insight from it that will help to steer you in a much better direction. Talk to you soon.
It's a bit like trying to do exercise or do something physical when you're severely sunburned. When you're severely sunburned, even the process of trying to go to sleep at night can be excruciatingly painful because every toss and turn, as you're rolling over in your sleep, you feel the sheets rubbing across your skin and it's painful. Whereas ordinarily, you wouldn't notice that at all.
Now, that red raw, sort of extra sensitivity and emotional pain could probably quite simply be healed purely for the power of connecting with people. If you've got good friendships, good relationships, if you've got people around you that you can feel a strong sense of connectedness to, well that alone would probably offer a fairly simple solution to help you overcome acute or chronic anxiety.
The problem is, again, that irony. There's that conundrum, the catch-22, which is that with anxiety, the process of feeling connected to people becomes inhibited. In other words, it's a lot more difficult to feel connected to people when you're anxious because often, we choose to avoid social situations.
There's a couple of reasons for that by the way. The first is that in order to feel a sense of connectedness to people, we need to feel a sense of understanding. We need to feel that they are understanding of us. The problem is that, iwhen anxious, most people around us simply don't really understand what's going on. They're too in their own little universe and it's very difficult to explain to them sometimes as well. When we do tell friends and family about our anxiety, they often dont understand, tell us that 'we are silly' and that we should simply get over it. If only it were so simple.
With long term chronic anxiety, quite often, you're feeling anxious because the thing that has triggered you off is probably something fairly small or seemingly small. It would certainly seem small to other people. Again, If you try to explain it, it just becomes much more complicated.
What you realized in your mind is that even though that thing may seem small, it's actually triggered off other thoughts or memories of things that have happened in the past. Or all these negative experiences through your life, although small, have also connected and joined the dots to create this much bigger picture in your mind.
Whilst the person sees just a little insignificant thing that they might think, "Why can't you just go over it?" What we see is something that eventually leads our mind to believe that life is terrible, it's all hopeless and there's nothing to look forward to.
Unless you've experienced that, it can be very challenging to understand what that's like. That makes it just more difficult to gain that sense of understanding from people around us. The second problem is that because unconsciously we'll always prefer to feel understood, then what happens with people especially that are experiencing long term chronic anxiety is ...
As the saying says, "Misery prefers company." We tend to find it more easy to gain that sense of connectedness from other people that area also quite anxious. Being surrounded by anxious people is not going to help us recover from anxiety. If anything, quite the opposite, it will help you stay in that dark space.
Again, that's part of that conundrum where you find it more easy to connect with people that are going to have a negative impact on you. Whereas the people that could potentially have a positive impact on you, will not make you feel a sense of connectedness or understanding. The end result is a deep down feeling of isolation, which is the exact opposite of what we need to feel in order to recover from anxiety. Again, the irony is that the more isolated we feel, the more anxious we get. The more anxious we get, the more isolated we feel and it becomes its vicious cycle. The more we practice anxiety, the more anxious we become and the more time we spend being anxious, the less time we are distracting ourselves and practicing not being anxious.
The other irony about acute anxiety is that the way that we would need to think in order to recover from depression is the exact opposite of the way that anxiety tries to get us to think. It's important to understand that acute anxiety is essentially a liar. It's like a sleazy salesman that plays on our hopes and our fears and our weaknesses and our vulnerabilities. It knows how to twist things and tell us things that will give us a short term sense of comfort sometimes but it will rob us our long term happiness. For example our anxiety may tell us to stay inside so that we are safe and protected. This is great in the short term because are safe and sound but, in the long term this is harmful to us. We loose connection with the world, our jobs, income, love, our ability to keep active and stay healthy.
For example, sometimes, it's simply easier to believe that everything is terrible or there's no hope for the future at all. Sometimes, at least, that gives us a sense of certainty. Whereas, if we were to get our hopes up, we would have to let our guard down. We'd have to accept that maybe not everything is terrible but not everything is good either.
That sets us up to be caught off guard and to be prone to being disappointed. Sometimes, it's just easier to believe that yes, everything is terrible and there's no hope for the future. All the other distorted version of reality, the depression often tries to pitch to us to get us to buy into.
In my e-book about anxiety, I outlined for you specifically what that particular argument is that the anxiety will use. It will use it in many, many different ways. You get 100 different people. You'll see 100 different versions of it, but it's the same recurring pattern time and time again.
Once you learn to identify that pattern, it gives you an empowered ability to sit back from it, realize when it's doing that phony sales pitch and give you the ability to understand how to then un-manipulate its manipulated version of reality and see things how they really are. That's what I've explained in this e-book and it's going to break it down for you in a way that's going to make it a lot easy to understand in fact, you will be able to overcome anxiety in four simple, effective and incredibly easy steps.
The other irony about anxiety however, is that taking care of ourselves when we're depressed or anxious is a lot more complicated. It's a lot more challenging and difficult than what it would ordinarily be. The irony is though that to recover from anxiety, we actually need to learn how to take better care of ourselves.
If you can think of the person that you love and care for most in the world right now, the person that is the most precious to you and imagine that person was now in the care of somebody else. You would want that somebody else, you would want that carer, to take very good care of your loved one.
In order to recover from anxiety, we need to learn how to essentially become that carer for ourselves, but also become that loved one and start to look after ourselves and think about it and communicate with ourselves in a way that provides us with strong emotional support. The irony though is that while we are anxious, it's a lot easier to not even realize sometimes that we're neglecting ourselves.
Here's the really important thing that I'd like you to take onboard though. If you were to speak to somebody who's in the middle of what they would call rock bottom or a midlife crisis or having a nervous breakdown or however they would describe at the time. They would say that it's one of the deepest, darkest, most difficult moments of their life.
The really, really interesting and fascinating thing is though, that when you follow them up and you speak to them a few years down the track, when they're reflecting back on those rock bottom moments, they'll speak of those moments in a very different tone. What they then come to realize is that they actually needed to have those rock bottom moments. They needed to go through that because sometimes we just keep spiraling and spiraling down and end up nowhere.
When we hit that moment that we would call rock bottom, they're the moments that jolt us into realizing that enough is enough. We're not willing to put up with that anymore and whatever it takes, we become willing to make the change. As a result of that, those pivotal moments, they make a different decision, they take a slightly different course of action and it doesn't necessarily fix everything straight away, but they just start to veer in a slightly different direction. As a result, that better direction is what sends them down the path to recovery and ends up almost being like riding a new chapter of life.
Everything I've spoken about here and everything I've written about in this e-book is not just theoretical information out of a textbook. These are all things that I can personally associate with. These are things that I have personally experienced. I've been through it. I know what it's like, but I also know the path to recovery as well.
It's not necessarily easy. It's not necessarily simple, but what I can guarantee you is that it is necessarily worth it. You are worth it. That's I think the most important fundamental belief that needs to change in a depressed person's mind. We need to accept that we are worth whatever it takes to heal those wounds and to fix our life, especially when we start to realize that anxiety is not always just affecting us. It is also affecting our loved ones and those we care about most.
One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling like you have to protect your loved ones from yourself. One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling guilty about not being able to be there or provide the emotional support for our loved ones around us just because we are so burdened with our own anxiety. That's one of the other motivating forces that brings people to this point as well. When they realized that they need to make changes not just for themselves, but for the people around them as well.
The purpose of this e-book is to give you some ideas but also to give you a starting point, because one of the other ironies of depression is that we often do a very circular kind of thinking where we just go around and around. "We know that there's a problem, but we don't necessarily know just where to start."
The idea of this e-book is to give you a place to start. I'm hoping that as you read through this FREE e-book, you'll pick up on a couple things in there where you'll be like, "Oh yeah, that makes perfect sense now. That explains that. That thing I've been doing ..." You figure out how it's personally relevant to you. Ideally, that will give you a point where you can come along to therapy and say, "That's where I'd like to get started now."
Just click on the link below. Download the full version if you prefer to read or download the audio book version if you prefer to listen. I hope you gained some really valuable insight from it that will help to steer you in a much better direction. Talk to you soon.
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